Monday

Movie Theater Etiquette

In 2012 Regal theaters reported $2.7 billion, and AMC $2.5 billion in sales this is easily explained since ‘movie going’ is one of our favorite pastimes. No need to yell, “Quite on the set,” to know the local movie theater is a hub of activity on any night, but especially on the weekend. A night at the movies is a fun family outing, a great date night, and a gathering place for friends to meet-up. With so many people gathered in a confined environment, it is all the more reason to engage in proper etiquette. 

Etiquette is the grace of society and the chaperon that enables us to flow together pleasurably and with ease. It’s not your mama’s movie going experience anymore; here is my etiquette tips for the modern movie goer. 


Movie Theater Etiquette

The Rude Movie Goer
If you’re the victim of a rude “movie goer” DO NOT handle the situation yourself. Quietly, not to disturb others, find an usher or the management and let them handle the rude patron. If the problem persists, quietly exit the movie and inform the management. They should comp you for refreshments and movie passes for another time. This is inconvenient but preferable to having an incident with a stranger over a night out. 

Ticket Purchase 
Keep the line moving! 
Prior to getting in-line decide on the movie you want to see and have your money ready to pay the ticket clerk.

Concession Stand
Same rules apply as with your ticket purchase; have your order and money ready for the cashier prior to getting in-line. 

Seating
Unless the theater is packed, be sure to leave a buffer seat between your party and strangers. 

Middle seats~ only sit in the middle of the row if you are sure you will not be getting up and down during the movie. Otherwise sit on an aisle seat that way you are not disrupting another movie going experience.

Some theaters have assigned seating this helps to eliminate most seating problems.

Mobile Devices
Turn them off when the previews begin, and leave them off during the movie. Don't check the time, text or use your mobile as a flashlight.

Conversations
Just don’t do it; no exceptions. 

Exit the Theater
When the movie is over, clean up your mess. Take your empty boxes and cups to the garbage can  near the doorway as you exit the movie. 


Seinfeld
Jerry & Kramer at the Movies


Thursday

11 Actions to Prioritize Your Relationship

Love is divine. 

You deserve love and be loved. For the majority of people, romantic love is the most worthwhile aspect of their lives. Many have fallen prey to Hollywood’s idealized version of love; however, romantic love is not inherent.

You have to deliberately work at your relationship to cultivate the techniques necessary to have a healthy abiding love. The good news is with perseverance, and deliberate, proactive action, couples can conquer any obstacles in their paths to have a happy and lasting relationship.

Romantic love is dissimilar to other types of love; its uniqueness is due to the intimacy you have with your partner. You gain a oneness that goes beyond words to an inner acknowledgment that you and your partner have become one flesh.

In spite of this oneness, unless the relationship is a priority for both partners, you will begin to drift apart. A few minor adjustments to your lifestyle will keep the love alive, increase your intimacy, and give you a lasting love.

11 Actions to Prioritize Your Relationship

Time
Daily Schedule Time Together

Listen 
Listening is caring

Date Night
Weekly have a night of romance

Chores
Sharing chores says, “I love you!”

Words
Use words of encouragement

Value

Never minimize your partner or their contributions

Encouragement
Be positive

Self-Esteem
Boost your partner’s self-image

Selflessness
Prefer your mate over yourself

Arguments
It’s finding a resolution; not about who is right

Respect
Never disparage your partner; even in jest
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Valentine's Day & Singleness


The day of amore is quickly approaching.

Do you know what this means? 

That's right, everything from candy to cornbread is suddenly sold in the shape
 of a heart, and worst you feel the burden to have a date for the night. 

Valentine’s Day can be one mean mama. 


You spot her hanging out on your corner, her raven hair teased up high, spiked heels, cleavage spilling out of her low-cut top, and her deep red lips are turned up in a pouty smirk. You don’t make eye contact as you slide pass her in the anticipation you’ll go unnoticed, and she won’t call you out. 

You let out a sigh of relief as you mosey by her without incident, when from behind you hear her soft sultry voice say, “Hey sexy.” She called you “sexy” Valentine’s Day isn’t such a mean mama…right? Without turning around you ask, “Are you talking to me?” Valentine purrs, “I’m talking to you, you sexy thing.” 

This is better validation than a date for the night, Valentine’s Day herself called you “sexy”. Smiling you spin around to face her, she motions for you to come closer. She grabs you by the nape of your neck, her eyes dancing, as if she knows something which escapes you. She lifts your chin, her pouty lips lay a sweet salty air kiss on your cheek, then with a hardy laugh she pushes you away. “Get out of here, looser” her cold steel grey eyes piercing you. 

Flummoxed, you say, “Valentine, it’s me, sexy thing.”  

Valentine’s Day laughs harder, she mouths the word “Looser” as she makes the ‘L’ sign on her forehead. Shocked you run off into the night crying, while in total agreement with her. You always knew, no date for Valentine’s Day equals ‘Looser’. 

Well, no longer, this is your liberation day, you have been set-free, from the constraints and demands of Valentine’s Day. 

There are amazing benefits to singleness on Valentine’s Day. For women you don’t have to struggle to fit into the sexy bustier, and garter belt set. While all the time wondering, if he realizes the woman wearing this outfit in the catalog has been photoshop, and then photoshop again. For men you'll not have the knot in your stomach from the pressure to achieve a night which will trump all other nights of romance for her. 

Don’t rub your liberation in the face of couples, instead have some pity for them. They have the weight of this one day, out of 365 days, which has to be the most romantic night of the year; count your blessing this isn’t you. 

Ways to Spend Valentine’s Day as a Single:
  • No self-pity
  • No cheesy romantic movies
  • No tears
  • No drunkenness
  • Fill the house with fresh flowers
  • Wear sexy lingerie under your sweat clothes 
  • Take a few minutes in the mirror to admire your muscles
  • Throw a blow-out party for singles only
  • Splurge on a gift for yourself
  • Watch scary movies
  • Hang-out at the batting cage
  • Day at the rifle range
  • Hang at your favorite sports bar
  • Take a mini-trip to a vineyard
  • Treat yourself to spa day
  • Dance the night away
  • Have a beer tasting contest
  • Kiss a stranger
  • Go to a comedy club
  • Do a stand-up comedy routine
  • Skip dinner, instead eat two desserts
  • Volunteer at a homeless shelter

Sunday

FACEBOOK THE NEW TOWN SQUARE

In bygone years the town square was the nucleus of the town, it was the nerve center for all activities. It was where old men came to linger in the sun, and argue politics, deals were negotiated, and philosophers gathered to debate. The town square was the prime location for a store front, and the hub of the civil scene. Bands played there, socials were held in the square, new neighbors were introduced to the town folks, the latest news, and gossip was spread via the town square. The kids playground was located in the town square, and young lovers sit on the park bench for courting. The traveling snake-oil salesman, knew the square was the core of any town; so he would position himself dead center of the square to hawk his goods. He would offer love potions, quick weight loss formulas, and any other scheme imaginable to con the trusting town folks out of their money.

The days of the local town square are long-gone. The town square has been laid to rest, the funeral procession has passed by us and the death dirge for the town square was sung so long ago, I doubt anyone remembers the lyrics. In today’s global economy, and universal village a virtual town square has emerged; Facebook. 


Facebook, to the tenth power, functions as the virtual local town square in our universal village. It is the ideal place to debate, socialize, promote a businesses, and campaign for a political office. Everyone has a Facebook account; celebrities, politicians, and even royalty.


Facebook has linked people from around the world with one another, except for social media these connections would not have been made. It has educated us on far away cultures, enable us to stand in solidarity with oppressed people groups, and has aided in the rise of the political voice of the non-politician. Together on Facebook we mourn the passing of men and women who were shift changers in the course of history. Without a doubt in a global community, Facebook has emerged as the new town square

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Social media is a phenomenal which has greatly improved our individual and, collective lives. It has united old friends, lost loves, and different generations of family members. It is a mega for networking, social media campaigns have boosted the number of organ donors, prevented suicides, and aided law enforcement in the apprehension of criminals. It has launched the career of artists, and musicians; Macklemore met Ryan Lewis on social media, it is the birthplace of their collaboration. Lonely hearts have found lasting love through social media; Macklemore not only met Lewis, he also met his fiancee through social media.

While the majority is positive, unfortunately there can also be devastating negatives to a virtual town square. Facebook is a draw for con-artist, and every kind of wacko, much like the local town square was the draw for snake-oil salesman's to hawk their trickery. Social media is notorious for romance scams, business fraud, thieves roam social medias in search of opportunities, identity thief is rampant, pedophiles span social media for prey, and it is a haven for bullies, and stalkers. 

Since Facebook is the virtual global town square, then your accounts on social media networks are your virtual homes. Facebook, as well as other social media networking sites, does all within their power to safeguard their users; the rest is up to you. You take precautions to protect yourself, your family, your home, and your possessions; you must be as diligent to safeguard to your social media accounts.

While teens are making a mass exodus from Facebook in favor of Instagram, Pinterest, Tumblr, Vine, Pheed, and a growing number of other social media sites. Facebook continues to gain users among those 35 years of age, and older. Facebook’s own statistics on the number of active users as of September 2013 are 1.19 billion monthly active users; 80% of their daily users are outside of the US and Canada.

Mark Zuckerberg launched Facebook to the Harvard University student body in February 2004. In infancy the social network name was “The Facebook”. The name was derived from the publication distributed, by some colleges, to students at the beginning of the year. The publication profiles members of the student body for the purpose of students getting acquainted with fellow students. 

The popularity of Facebook grew at such a rapid pace among Harvard students, that within months Facebook accounts were extended to other Boston universities, eventually all US colleges had access to Facebook. In 2005, Facebook was made available to UK colleges, and US high school students. In September 2006, Facebook was extended beyond educational institutions to anyone with a registered email address.

In September 2006, when Facebook was opened to the public, there was an environmental shift in the network. The profile questions on Facebook have remained in the same genre as in its conception. The questions are oriented toward, and pertain to youth, who are prowling the network for dates, or crushing on a fellow student.

Although there are enormous benefits to meeting new people on social networks, you need to be cautious. According to Facebook’s own statistics your posts have the potential of reaching over a billion viewers.

Whatever you post on Facebook, regardless of your privacy setting, is not private. A good example is when Prince Harry’s pictures on his private Facebook account became front page news. The scandalous photographs on Prince Harry’s page was exposed to the world, proving nothing on a social network is private.

The safe environment of college, and high school kids roaming Facebook to connect with other kids is over. Even though the set-up questions of your account remains the same, unless you are a young single using Facebook as a dating site, you do not need to answer a list of intrusive questions. The list of ‘your favorites’, and your personal history provides a bounty of information for scammers.

Though you should not display the answers to these questions however, we both know, you will because it makes you feel like a rockstar. Since warning you not to answer these questions is not the solution. I will arm you with knowledge on the ways scammers use your personal information, so you are alert to the different scams, and can avoid them.

Scammers are not harmless pranksters. Scammers are criminals, their intentions are to harm you, and your love ones. 

Impostor Scam
Your personal information, posts, and photographs on Facebook, give scammers a bounty of information useful to con you.

The Enticement:
You receive a Facebook message, call, email, or text from someone claiming to be a family member or friend who needs you to immediately transfer money to help him out of a dire situation.

The Hook:
Using the personal information you have provided to scammers via your Facebook account, it is surprisingly easy for scammers to impersonate a trusted friend, family member, or organization.

Handling the Situation:
If someone calls claiming to be a family member in trouble, check the story out with other people in your family. You also can ask the caller questions that a stranger couldn’t possibly answer, provided you haven’t already exposed this part of your personal life on Facebook.

The “Nigerian” Scam
This scam is characterized by sob stories, flowery language, and promises of a pot of gold at the end of the Nigerian rainbow.

The Enticement:
The scammers behind these messages claim to be officials, businessmen, or the surviving spouses of former government honchos whose money is tied up temporarily. They offer to transfer large sums of money into your bank account if you will pay the fees or “taxes” so their money is released. Scammers will used “official” looking documentation, and trunks of fake money to verify their claim. In some cases, you may be asked to travel abroad to complete the transaction.

The Hook:
The intention of this scam is to steal your money, and/or your identity. There will be an additional request for money to help with emergencies, and/or medical expenses, these request will continue until your resources are drained. The scammers along with your money disappear.

According to State Department reports, people who have responded to these emails have been beaten, subjected to threats and extortion, and in some cases, murdered.

Handling the Situation:
Do not respond to sob stories asking you to send money to help out a stranger, or a family member without first speaking directly with that family member. Someone is up to no good, and is trying to manipulate your emotions.

If you've lost money to one of these schemes, call your local Secret Service field office. Local field offices are listed in the Blue Pages of your telephone directory.
Online Dating Scam
Scammers create fake profiles to romance people out of money, the scam artist may go as far as making wedding plans with you. Online love interest who ask for money, or other goods are most likely scam artist.

Signs Your Love Interest May Be a Scam Artist:
  • wants to leave the dating site immediately and use personal email or IM
  • claims love in a heartbeat
  • claims to be from the U.S., but is traveling or working overseas, or military service abroad
  • plans to visit, but is prevented by a traumatic event or a business deal gone sour

Never Give Money to an online love interest & don’t sent money to cover:
  • travel
  • medical emergencies
  • hotel bills
  • hospital bills for a child or other relative
  • visas or other official documents
  • or losses from a temporary financial setback
  • and don’t send gifts

Work At Home Scam
The Enticement:
These ads and solicitation promise large profits, be your own boss, while never leaving the comforts of your own home.

The Hook:
The ads don’t say you may have to spend your own money to fulfill the terms of the assignment – placing newspaper ads, making copies of documents, or buying supplies, software, or equipment to do the job. They unusually won’t mention you won’t be paid for all the hours you put in, nor will you be paid if they decide your work is not up to their standards.

Handling the Situation:
Don’t commit your time, or money to a home-based business until you are satisfied with the answer to the following questions:
  • What tasks will you have to do?
  • Will you be paid a salary or will you work on commission?
  • Who will pay you?
  • When will you get your first paycheck; how much will it be?
  • How much will you have to pay for the program? 
  • Does the cost include supplies, equipment, and membership fees.
  • What will you get for the fees you have to pay?

You should:
  • Visit the business in person
  • speak with employees, 
  • Do an internet search of the company, and their promoters along with the key words: 
  • scam, 
  • fraud, 
  • reviews, 
  • complaints

Weight Loss Scam
The Enticement:
Some messages promise a revolutionary new weight loss product to help you slim down at lightening speed without diet or exercise

The Hook:
These ads prey on your desires to improve your health. Truth is weight loss is achieved by significant changes in your behavior, and nothing less.

Handling the Situation:
Permanent weight loss happens with permanent lifestyle changes. Talk to your health care provider about a nutrition and exercise program suited to your lifestyle and metabolism.

Lotteries and Sweepstakes Scam
The Enticement:
You receive an official looking message informing you, that you have already won a foreign lottery or an online sweepstakes. The letter informs you to receive your winning you must first pay the taxes, fees, shipping costs, or insurance.

The Hook:
It is illegal to play a foreign lottery, this means you could not win a foreign lottery.

Handling the Situation:
An offer to play a foreign lottery is illegal; therefore Ignore all offers to play foreign lotteries, or to enter foreign sweepstakes.


From my newest series: Life Online

Resources: US Department of State

Monday

THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST

Is an adventurous expedition in pursuit of & to obtain your ultimate level of health and fitness. 
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THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST is your solution to the obstacles in your path holding you back from being all you can be. Whether it is an extra five, fifty, or hundred pounds, you are a yo-yo dieter, you lack the motivation for working out, or you lack self-love and acceptance. THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST goes beyond a diet program to a focus on a lifestyle transformation. Each month you will make small changes to incorporate healthy habits, and mindset shifts that when linked together will revolutionize your life, your health, and fitness level.

You will embark on a twelve month quest to a healthy lifestyle, this will be done in a concession of small steps implemented into your lifestyle monthly. It takes on the average 28 days to form a habit, the rationale behind THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST is you will form one habit at a time, thereby making permanent lifestyle changes. Over the next twelve months you will break unhealthy patterns, which have held you back, as you develop a healthier, fitter, active, and vibrant lifestyle.


An advantage with THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST is it is not a one size fits all program, whether you prefer low-calorie, low-carb, or a vegan diet, you will customize an eating plan to your needs, lifestyle and taste buds. 

The different components of THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST when fused together will not only help you to loose weight, and maintain the loss, improve your health and fitness level, it will also boost your mood, confidence, energy, enable you to have a better night sleep, and improve your sex life. 

By following THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST you will make permanent lifestyle changes. An effective way to achieve a shift in a habit is by adapting small modification to your behavior each month. Month one, you will replace  unhealthy habits with healthy ones, in month two you will reaffirm the habits obtained in month one, as you introduce additional healthy habits. In month three you will reaffirm the healthy habits learned in month one and month two as you commence the third month’s healthy habits. The adaptation of positive habits and the discard of negative habits is difficult, the gradual adjustments to your routine diminish the feeling of being overwhelmed.You will repeat this pattern throughout THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST until the habits are established, the repetition of a habits eventually produce routines which are instinctive and automatic.

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then is not an act, but a habit.”  
Will Durant, paraphrases Aristotle


COMMITMENT QUEST
Month one is your personal commitment month. Ready yourself for the marathon quest for health and fitness, picture yourself at the starting line of the race. 

Enthusiasm fades, it will not carry you to the finish line. Instead, this month you will make the stone-cold decision to commit to and follow through with THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST.

You make commitments all the time, and you manage to keep them. You drop your clothes off at the dry cleaners, you follow-through with the commitment to pick them up. You may have other pressing tasks to do, but you would not permanently blow-off picking up your clothes. You jot the words ‘dry cleaners’ down on your ‘to do’ list, and it becomes part of your routine for the day. As you progress through THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST you will gain a new perspective on your self-worth, your health and fitness, then just like the dry cleaners, it will be become second nature to merge THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST into your daily ‘to do’ list.

This month you will make the mental resolve to commit to THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST. Lifestyle shifts are not easy, this is why you will take small gradual steps forward conjoined with your commitment, you will cross the finish line. Your reward will be a health, fitness, positive mental outlook, and you will forever break the yo-yo dieting syndrome. 

By upholding your commitment to THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST you are demonstrating self-respect, building your self-esteem, and your confidence. 

Your commitment has to be made with a realistic expectation, and a resolve to stay the course, even when you have setbacks. There will be rare occasions when you lapse back into your old habits, or when something unavoidable happens to cause you to deviate from your routine. You need to make the commitment NOW, that when you falter from your routine, you will not allow yourself to be sabotaged, instead you will immediately get back on track. Although small setbacks are inevitable, you need to take it seriously, and make a quick recovery. Failing to do so will result in feeling defeated, irresponsible, and it will destroy your own sense of commitment. Give yourself grace, and be kind to yourself, but do not rationalize or make excuses, instead push yourself to recommit. Your recommitment will give you a sense of satisfaction, success, and increased self-respect. 

Bad habits reinforce bad habits, and good habits reinforce good habits. 


THE H2O QUEST
Water will be your soul companion, starting this month. 

Hydration is essential to good health and fitness. Water flushes waste products and toxins out of vital organs, energizes muscles, carriers nutrients to your cells, improves digestion, makes  skin supple, maintains normal bowel functions, curbs hunger pains, suppresses appetite, flushes out fat, improves endocrine-gland function, alleviates water retention and provides a moist environment for your ear, nose and throat tissues. 

Your primary source for hydration should be water, it is cost efficient, it is tapped into your home, and office, and has zero calories. However, water is not your only alternative, unless you enjoy the taste of the beverages you consume, it will not become a daily part of your routine. Other sources which can contribute to your daily fluid intake are fruits, vegetables, low-calorie flavored waters, juices, milk, beer, wine and even caffeinated low-calorie sodas, coffee and tea. 

The amount of water you need for hydration depends on your climate, activity level, how much you perspire and your gender. We have all heard the ‘8 by 8’ rule, drink eight, 8 ounce glasses of water daily, which is 64 ounces (1.9 liters). According to The Institute of Medicine, the total recommended consumption of water from food and liquid is higher than the ‘8 by 8’ rule. The Institute of Medicine has determined the adequate intake (AI) for women is 91 ounces daily, (approximately 2.7 liters) of water. The Institute of Medicine determined the adequate intake (AI) for men is the consummation of 125 ounces of water (approximately 3.7 liters).  Again, the total intake of water can come from a combination of beverages and foods.  

When you are hydrated you will not be thirsty, and your urine will be light yellow to colorless, the stream will easily flow, and it will be odorless.

One note of caution do not chug a large amount of water at one time, this can damage your kidneys and/or drown your internal organs. Although the possibility of consuming too much water is small, the conquests are dire. 

Although hydration is essential to a feeling of well-being, meeting your adequate intake  (AI) of fluids can be a challenge. THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST will provide you with a chart to keep track of your intake of liquids, along with tips and recipes to help you reach your goal.


THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST ~ MONTH 1
You will have two challenges this month. One is to commit to THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST, and to daily meet the Institute of Health recommended adequate intake (AI) of water. 

CHALLENGE 1 ~ COMMITMENT QUEST
You will commit to follow through with THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST. This month is crucial because your commitment is the foundation for your quest.

You should be enthusiastic about THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST. However, as I stated earlier, enthusiasm will not carry you across the finish line, therefore you must make an INTENTIONAL decision to commit and follow-through with your commitment. 

Tell your friends, family and co-workers that you have committed to THE HEALTH & FITNESS QUEST,  this public declaration will help you honor your commitment to a healthier lifestyle. 

CHALLENGE 2 ~ H2O QUEST
You will daily consume the Institute of Medicine recommended adequate intake (AI) of water. You will be provided with a water chart, each time you drink a glass of water put a check on the chart. This will ensure you meet your daily water intake.